Time to disappear indefinitely from social media platforms, I miss the bliss of ambiguity and privacy (185)

How many would close a business because it’s going too well? Hardly, however there are some things more important than popularity.

For me, it’s the validation of authenticity and no one can answer that but ourselves. Being pigeon holed by others is their prerogative. Pigeon holing ourselves is a travesty no matter how much success we achieve.

We are more than what we do.

There is nothing I hate worse than forever talking about yesterday’s victories, we must be current in our victories if we are to survive and thrive.

Back in December 2016 after seven years of social media, I switched it off, deleted all contacts and vanished off the virtual grid to rebuild, reignite and sharpen my real world experience (Basically getting my creative voice back)

I originally started my social media platform in 2007 to widen my circle of influence. I wanted to make a difference to the next generation. I have always wanted to help them to be creative as they find their voice.

It’s hard to admit but there are seasons in life where our voice can fade and we find ourselves just going through the motions, no matter how large our platform grows and the opportunities presented us. I felt my voice was fading and my effectiveness wasn’t as sharp. While my public life was increasing, my soul was dying, leading up to my two year sabbatical in December 2016, from all things virtual. Being popular doesn’t always equate to making an impact.

I’d gone through a similar experience twenty years earlier as a public speaker travelling extensively around the world doing seminars three weeks out of a month. The continual stage work blurred my reality and it was time to settle for a season to get my voice back.

Over that two year social media sabbatical, I went back to basics rediscovering why I do what I do.

The fact is, I do what I do off the stage or grid and have done so for decades. I live it and breathe it. I am compelled to live a full life and all social media did was allow others a small Porthole into a very real life. In December 2018, I felt to come back to the social media platforms hopefully with fresh creativity, again, focusing on influencing the next generation to help them find their voice and meaning.

Rebuilding the new platform was half the fun as you ask yourself “Do I still have something to say that can influence another person to seek out a better life for themselves?” I think the answer was and is yes.

After the last two years being back on the grid, what I set out to do has worked. Typically, it’s afforded me fresh opportunities to express my ideas and encourage where I could. Unfortunately even when something appears to be working on your behalf, you still have to work out if it’s the best path to get you to where you want to be.

As for me, it seems that my private world opens way more opportunities than social media has ever done, as much as I’ve loved the experience.

Being wise and astute with my time, I am looking forward to disappearing again off the social media grid indefinitely and focus in areas which I feel will be far more affective.

As of March 2021, I have decided to go off all social media platforms indefinitely bar my blogging which is on my website.

I started a new business in September 2020 called Tom Smilovitis LEADERSHIP & Personal Development. My passion is to work with leaders that are looking to grow their leadership & personal development skills to succeed in every area of life. The business is very boutique and is definitely not suited to mass marketing.

If people are interested in what I have to offer, I’m confident they’ll find me and approach me as they have always done.


Perhaps you are looking to develop that authentic life and you feel something is missing. All the popularity and outward success in the world hasn’t filled that void inside of you. I assure you there is an amazing life waiting for you off the grid.

If you are interested in a chat, message me on WhatsApp with the button to the right hand bottom corner of this page or email me direct on contact@tomsmilovitis.com and we can arrange to meet if you’re in Perth, Western Australia or zoom chat anywhere in the world.

Who knows what light could come from a chat?

If you are an individual looking for a professional friend that you can trust during your habit renewal transition, perhaps take on this offer and let’s chat
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