Forgiveness is a must to a renewed mindset, why? (189)

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Forgiveness is raw subject and many struggle to talk about it, yet the need for forgiveness is vital.

Forgiveness is a must, if we want to experience a renewed mindset. Whether it’s in a family relationship, friendship or business connection, forgiveness plays a huge role in living a mentally healthy life.

The very idea of moving forward without forgiveness, is a myth.

Instead of travelling down the forgiveness path, many try to compartmentalise their life. To them, if they discreetly suppress painful thoughts, in the hope, life will be less painful.

Some aren’t as subjective and will use the pain of broken promises as fuel for their obnoxious behaviour. These are the ones that must control their whole environment, in the hope of not falling victim again.

Others fall into the condemnation cycle and become victims of their own failures or others that have failed them.

Whether it’s suppression, anger management or the emotions of worthlessness, they all lead to a sickness of the soul.

Forgiveness is not a free pass to bad behaviour, forgiveness is a path to renewal and wholesome behaviour.

Forgiveness at first seems more painful than suppression. Forgiveness seeks transparency, a clean slate, a starting over.

As ancient as the Lord’s Prayer, the very foundation of forgiveness is a soul searching path. When Jesus taught his disciples to pray, he dealt with forgiveness as a daily routine. Part of the prayer goes as follows, ‘Forgive us our sins as we forgive those that have sinned against us’. Rather than suppressing our failures, or getting angry at our failures, or even worse, becoming a victim of our failures, learn to forgive yourself and others by asking for it. Prayer is a great place to start asking, if confrontation seems daunting.

If we start by recognising our own misgivings by asking for forgiveness. From a solid foundation of receiving forgiveness, forgiving others becomes possible.

Moving forward is very difficult, if at all possible, if we don’t address forgiveness. Not forgiving is a recipe for breakdown. We carry unnecessary weights, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. At a point in time, it will feel like the proverbial straw that breaks the camels back.

Seemingly out of nowhere, floods of resentment appear. Blame becomes ugly and years of effort go down the drain. All because of an inability to forgive.

Forgiveness allows all parties to reflect and be remorseful.

Forgiveness sets us free from toxic thoughts that lead to action.

Forgiveness allows us to see hope in the darkest of days.

As Easter approaches yearly, with the message of forgiveness being proclaimed worldwide, so many miss the significance of its power. The example Jesus set by dying on the cross, saying, “Father, forgive them, they don’t know what they are doing”… is so relevant to our day to day lives.

If we only knew the pain we cause in those closest to us, many would behave differently. It often takes a whole lot of terrible words said, acts played out, to recognise our failures. It’s at that point, we recognise the need for forgiveness.

Let’s relearn to forgive daily from the heart, and even our enemies will want to become our friends.

How is your forgiveness path going?

Forgive often. Forgive quickly.

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