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Discovering what a failure we were when we did our best can be very sobering. Being the absent father, husband, son, trying to figure out how to put enough food on the table, make the right career choices and even trying to work out who we are can take it’s tole. All along we thought we were doing our best and then we find out we crossed so many lines to end… Read More

A society where fathers are absent, the next generation struggles with identity. We acknowledge that prisons are predominantly filled with men. Not necessarily are all these men evil but most have very little references of restraint, tough love, discipline and purpose. Men have an innate desire to hunt, protect and provide. Men definitely are created uniquely different from women who have an innate desire to birth, nurture and domesticate. While both sound… Read More

Years ago I heard this quote ‘A person convinced against their will is of the same opinion still’, implying, we can’t make people see what we want them to see. Having an attitude that we are always right or our way is the only way creates all sorts of road blocks in life. 1. Parents do this to their children until the children resist and pushback 2. Bosses have this with their… Read More

Even in nature we see the leap from dependency to independence and the ultimate cycle is to give back to the whole to make it interdependent. Before there was any form of social security to fill the gaps of poverty and helping those most vulnerable, family was the ultimate incubator to fulfil all the stages. Growing in a migrant family I experienced all three stages of life within my small community. It… Read More

We can often get trapped in our circumstances and become blind to possibilities. Circumstances?, seeming facts or conditions connected with or relevant to an event or action. The problem with living under the burden of circumstances, we become tossed about like a tempestuous ocean, never feeling anchored about anything. If circumstances are favourable, we enjoy the moment like a flowering daisy, fortunate enough to glimpse the sun for a moment or two,… Read More

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