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Discovering what a failure we were when we did our best can be very sobering. Being the absent father, husband, son, trying to figure out how to put enough food on the table, make the right career choices and even trying to work out who we are can take it’s tole. All along we thought we were doing our best and then we find out we crossed so many lines to end… Read More

A society where fathers are absent, the next generation struggles with identity. We acknowledge that prisons are predominantly filled with men. Not necessarily are all these men evil but most have very little references of restraint, tough love, discipline and purpose. Men have an innate desire to hunt, protect and provide. Men definitely are created uniquely different from women who have an innate desire to birth, nurture and domesticate. While both sound… Read More

Years ago I heard this quote ‘A person convinced against their will is of the same opinion still’, implying, we can’t make people see what we want them to see. Having an attitude that we are always right or our way is the only way creates all sorts of road blocks in life. 1. Parents do this to their children until the children resist and pushback 2. Bosses have this with their… Read More

It’s very rare to find individuals that are so inclusive, that purity is their greatest motive. It’s so much easier to create outsiders, US & THEM. Xenophobia is real and is used by politicians to win elections. Tribal leaders have used it for thousands of years in order to preserve cultures. Both politicians and tribal elders see themselves as the puritans to keep order. Giving everyone a seat at the table, even… Read More

The moment forgiveness is released into the air, all sorts of transformations take place. Forgiveness is a living thing, it’s not a thought process or a program. Just because people coexist, it doesn’t imply forgiveness has taken place. Some of the most angry and bitter people can coexist for years harbouring bitterness and resentment. Being civil isn’t forgiveness, being civil externally prevents wars, but civility without forgiveness cannot bring about harmony. Wether… Read More

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